Golden Rules of Writing- Part 3

1. Introduction

I have been receiving some wonderful feedback from a number of you in regard to this series on writing. Knowing that someone is there actively reading, brings me great joy. I am waiting to hear from more of you, so don’t be bashful!

Here is some of what has been sent to me. (Shared with permission.)

“Since so much of what we feel goes unspoken,
All the more reason to write our feelings down in some form or fashion.

Letter, verse, story,
Even though we might call it “fiction.”
There is no fiction really.
Fiction is a genre employed by those who need to feel and share their pain anonymously.”

“I tend to say too much about what I feel,
And when I am dead and gone, there won’t be much left unsaid.

You will know where you stood with me, and not,
Rather than being left with a mystery.

I would rather the tears be mine now,
Rather than yours in whatever comes later on.
I want my Heaven now, rather than my Hell in the hereafter.”

“I’ve been needing to have an important conversation with my partner, for quite some time now. I was avoiding the conversation because I was afraid of the results. Well … I am very happy to report that I decided to follow the principles of your “Golden Rules” and the conversation turned out really well. Thanks so much!”

Once again, if you have interest in my upcoming teleseries on writing please email me and let me know. I will place you on a special mailing list.
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2. Golden rules of writing- Part 3

Writing is like a hide and seek game. The reader will enjoy searching to find you.
Behind a wall or in the woods … And amongst your sentences.

Don’t be too quick to show or express your deepest feelings. Do so over time, as you develop a relationship with the reader.

The respect or lack thereof, you have towards your subject matter, will be transferred by the reader to you.
The more you show respect for the subject of your writing, the closer your reader will feel towards you. If you express a negative or cynical perspective, in many instances, the reader will tend to distance themselves from you. If the reader feels you are judging others, they will tend to feel that you would also judge them.

You can express your keen judgment, without needing to be judgmental.

One of your main jobs as a writer, is to help the reader feel welcomed.
The respect you show to the reader leads to the respect they will feel towards you, and what you write.

If you talk down to the reader, lecture them, or show disrespect in any way, the reader will tend to distance themselves from you.

If you are writing from the point of view of an expert, come across as a friendly expert open to opposing points of view.

When you start a story or article by saying, “This writing is about X and Y, you limit the reader’s experience, and creativity.
If you writing is well conceived, you will not have to tell the reader what you are writing about. Also, you need to keep in mind that the reader might draw rather different conclusions from your writing, than you are expecting. It is best to allow for multiple interpretations of what you write.

Make the reader an active participant in what you write, by leaving your writing ever so much incomplete.
To some extent, allow for the reader to complete your piece on their own. Rather than saying “and everyone lived happily ever after”, leave your ending open to more than one resolution. When you leave the reader to complete the story on their own, they will feel like an active participant in what you write. The reader will complete what you write by drawing on their own hopes and dreams.

Your writing needs to convey a sensibility that is common to the feelings and experience of the reader.
Especially when writing a deeply personal piece, you need to be certain to convey a message the reader will have some experience of.

Writers who are well received know how to listen to their readers.
As a writer, you need to have the ability to sense what your readers will think and feel upon reading what you have written. You need to have a sense of how the reader will respond to what you write.

Impactful writing requires the ability to be patient and listen to the promptings of your heart.
Be still, listen, and feel. Whatever you are wanting to express is already rising up within you. Powerful writing comes much more from your heart, than from your intellect.

Be still and have the discipline to wait … otherwise you will start too soon, and you writing will lack clarity.

When you sit quietly and allow your emotions to move, this movement will eventually lead to words.

The more you write, the more you will learn … about yourself, your subject matter, and life.
Stay open to this learning. Don’t try and push what you think you want to say. You and the reader both need to digest what you write. Slower is better. Good writing requires the time and opportunity to properly digest the emotional impact of what you express.

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