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- Becoming part of the community
November 5, 2014
Somehow there seems to be what I call “the grapevine effect” where numerous people spontaneously start interacting with me in a new way. What I find so interesting is that this change in relationship takes place in various different settings all within a short time frame. It is as if a message got transmitted across ...
- The woman with a broken arm
October 7, 2014
There is a store in my neighborhood that I am very intrigued by. It is quite a rundown shop with the front awning looking like it will collapse any day now. Indeed the awning is so bent over that I have to bend over to make my way inside. There aren’t any doors or windows ...
- Ultradian Rhythms and Peak Performance States
September 16, 2014
When you attune to your Ultradium Rhythms you learn how to go with the flow of energy your body produces over the course of every day. This will enable you to work smarter, without needing to work harder. This will be the last podcast for a while for Seishindo. We may come back in the ...
- Wake up feeling refreshed and energized
September 3, 2014
We teach you how to wake up feeling rested and energized by focusing on the positive aspects and relationships in your life.
- An interview with Stephen Gilligan – Part 2
August 19, 2014
We finish our interview Stephen Gilligan, Ph.D, a leader in the field of generative psychology, and learn his thoughts on how we can live a life that is less stressful and thus more emotionally fulfilling. Due to the length of the interview, we split our talk into two parts. This is Part 2.
- An interview with Stephen Gilligan – Part 1
August 5, 2014
We interview Stephen Gilligan, Ph.D, a leader in the field of generative psychology, and learn his thoughts on how we can live a life that is less stressful and thus more emotionally fulfilling. Due to the length of the interview, we split our talk into two parts. This is Part 1 and we finish our ...
- Overcoming occasional insomnia
July 16, 2014
If you have trouble sleeping from time to time, then I think today’s podcast will offer you definite value. The exercise I walk you through in the podcast will support you in getting the kind of rest you desire and need.
- Mushin Breathing- A Japanese technique for lessening stress
July 3, 2014
When you are experiencing mushin you are centered and calm, yet active. You do neither too much or too little, as you release all extraneous action and thought. Nothing comes between your thoughts and actions, and nothing is left over or undone. Thought, action, and breathing occur simultaneously, and this is the exercise walks you ...
- A short intermission
May 20, 2014
I have moved out of Japan after having lived there for 30 years, and I am slowly on my way to live in Thailand for at least a year. I will be up in the mountains in Chiang Rai, and hosting friends, students, and other guests.
- Regaining rapport when someone is upset with you
May 6, 2014
Even in the best relationships your counterpart will likely become upset with you from time to time. This tool will help you to successfully resolve such situations and rebuild the relationship. You might even find that successfully dealing with the situation will make the relationship even stronger than it was before.
- How to create rapport when meeting someone new
April 15, 2014
Whether you meet one new person a month or ten new people a day, the way you begin a relationship with someone will go a long way towards determining how the relationship will unfold in the future. Today I want to look at what you can do starting out when meeting someone new for the ...
- An introduction to the art of rapport
April 2, 2014
When wanting to create rapport with someone else, you need to start out by creating rapport with yourself first. You need to feel comfortable in your own skin, in your own shoes. And the way you do that is to begin by calming yourself and becoming receptive to everything taking place in and around you.
- Learn from your past, rather than being defeated by it!
March 18, 2014
Learn how to resolve your inner conflicts – when one part says yes and the other says no – to achieve your goals, e.g. weight loss, going to the gym, etc.
- Achieve greater clarity and purpose by resolving inner conflict
March 5, 2014
Learn how to resolve your inner conflicts – when one part says yes and the other says no – to achieve your goals, e.g. weight loss, going to the gym, etc.
- Creating great relationships by modeling others
February 15, 2014
How to build and maintain a high quality relationship with others by learning from those who do it best, i.e. model excellence.
- Would you like to handle criticism better?
February 3, 2014
Need a better way to respond to criticism? This newsletter discusses five points that you can instantly use in your daily life for better results.
- A good method to help you change careers
January 15, 2014
In order to give ourselves the best chance of having a healthy perspective about life in general and our place in life, we will do well to take the time to be mindful. You can achieve a lot by simply being mindful of what you are doing in the moment, rather than thinking about other ...
- Are you on the right career path?
January 3, 2014
Many people have a lot of pain around the issue of what they “should” be doing work-wise. It can be really horrible going to work everyday when you are unhappy with what you are doing. You will have the best chance of excelling in a career when it is agreeable to your whole self.
- The act of forgiveness is an act of self love!
December 15, 2013
The longer we dwell on hurtful situations from the past, the longer we keep ourselves from living fully in the present, and in the process we often bring about further pain and suffering. Forgiveness is an act of kindness.
- Build better relationships with people who are different than you
December 1, 2013
When something appears as unnatural, we often don’t have positive thoughts regarding a person. We tend to have judgments about this person. So, what to do?
- Brainstorming new ideas and solving problems using the Walt Disney Creativity Model
November 15, 2013
The Disney Creativity Model involves exploring new ideas from three different perceptual positions or viewpoints: the viewpoint of a dreamer, the viewpoint of a realist, and the viewpoint of a critic, and then eventually synthesizing these three different perspectives into one workable, successful plan.
- Tapping in the the Potential Benefits of Stress
November 1, 2013
When you change the way you think about stress, you will change your response to stress, and this will enable you to use the signs of stress that show up in your daily life as a way to help you become healthier and happier.
- Everyday Anger Management
October 15, 2013
The angrier someone is over a long period of time, the more difficulty they have in expressing their full range of emotions. Their anger overwhelms them and blocks out the possibility of them feeling emotions like sadness, happiness, and love.
- Say yes to success
October 1, 2013
What happens for many of us is that without realizing it, we often have competing goals and desires. We say that we want to be successful, and or emotionally fulfilled, and yet we find ourselves not fully agreeing with our stated intention.
- Overcoming Procrastination
August 15, 2013
We discuss the typical reasons for procrastinating and how you can overcome inertia, stay on course, and accomplish the tasks that are important to you.
- Building better relationships
August 1, 2013
You can build better relationships by learning how to understand and appreciate the perspectives of others. In fact I would say that many of the challenges we face when in relationship are due to the fact that we don’t truly understand the other person.
- What to do when facing failure
July 15, 2013
What if we looked at failure as feedback, rather than as a sign of incompetence? We engage in an activity or relationship and the world around us gives us feedback. Sometimes positive and sometimes not so positive. We need to adjust and adapt based on the feedback we receive.
- Reframing your relationship to change
July 1, 2013
This week’s newsletter and podcast is about “Reframing your relationship to change”. We look at how to reframe our relationship to change and engage our challenges from a positive, self-empowering perspective.
- Creating and achieving the goals you desire
June 15, 2013
Today’s podcast is going to teach you a great method for setting and achieving goals. This is one of the core models in the Seishindo Life Tools Podcast series, and a core part of the coaching I do with people.
- Positive Intention: With yourself
June 1, 2013
Today’s podcast walks you through how to use the concept of positive intention to forge a better relationship with yourself.
- It’s a new day, a new dawn – Positive Intention with others
May 15, 2013
Today’s podcast again discusses the concept of “positive intention”. This podcast talks about how to improve your relationships with others, by assuming that people really do want to be involved in relationships that serve all parties involved.
- Positive Intention
May 1, 2013
Positive intention is a fundamental concept you can use to improve your relationship with others, and also to improve your relationship with yourself. Positive intention is- An intention or goal that is meant to bring about beneficial results for everyone involved. No one is hurt or demeaned along the way.
- The Risks and Rewards of Personal Freedom
April 1, 2013
The quality of your life depends on feeling your essence, and living the design that is you. If you are a fish your life needs to be all about swimming. If you are a bird your life needs to be all about flying and spreading your message of freedom.
- Thoughts to Ponder – 8
April 1, 2013
Do you appreciate who you are while still realizing the need to change? Or do you tend to find fault with yourself and bemoan who you are not? The more you criticize and find fault with yourself, the less likely you are to live the life you truly desire.
- Thoughts to Ponder – 7
March 15, 2013
“When we find inspiration, we need to take action for ourselves and for our communities. Even if it means making a hard choice, or cutting out something and leaving it in your past.” Aron Ralston
- Thoughts to Ponder – 6
February 28, 2013
“If we could agree that for six months we would not ask How?…this might elevate the state of not knowing to being an acceptable condition of our existence rather than a problem to be solved. – Peter Block
- Thoughts to Ponder – 5
February 15, 2013
Is there anything in life, that is really worth doing, That is “easy” to accomplish? When you say, “But it won’t be easy!” Are you really saying that you doubt whether or not you are capable?
- Thoughts to Ponder – 4
February 1, 2013
Do you spend a good deal of your time recounting stories of difficult times you have had in the past? Or do you spend a good deal of your time telling stories of positive outcomes you are expecting in the future?
- Thoughts to Ponder – 3
January 16, 2013
Do you feel like something is missing in your life, that something is missing within yourself? Realizing that you are always changing, how can you feel complete when your life is yet to be complete? It is important to regularly update your perception of who you are.
- Thoughts to Ponder – 2
January 2, 2013
The task at hand is to give your primary attention to your breathing, and just let these questions float past you. It will likely seem that some of these questions are more important for you than others. Decide which are most important and you come up with the answers over time.
- The Circle of Life
December 15, 2012
Shortly after being diagnosed with late stage brain cancer, my mom began to lose her ability to communicate in words. She went from saying “I’m thirsty, please give me a glass of water.” to eventually only being able to say, “Water!”.
- Thoughts to Ponder
December 1, 2012
“In the measurement world, you set a goal and strive for it. In the universe of possibility, you set the context and let life unfold.” When desiring to be more successful, rather than trying to push through life, allow life to unfold.
- Neural Networks
November 15, 2012
Recent scientific research shows that people find it difficult to be empathetic and analytical at the same time. When your brain activates the neural network that makes it possible for you to feel your emotions, it suppresses the neural network used to be analytical
- Wide-angle Perspective
November 1, 2012
Your physiology plays a major role in determining your emotional state and how you perceive the world. You and your world change when you slow down and allow yourself to have an open focus, wide angle perspective.
- Unlocking “Brain Lock” – Part 4
October 16, 2012
We have many, many emotional reactions in our lives prior to thinking, Because we have a visceral response to emotionally charged events or relationships prior to thinking, we often wind up reacting in a way that defies logic, even when we desperately want to be logical.
- Unlocking “Brain Lock” – Part 3
October 1, 2012
We have an evolutionary predisposition to pay attention to anything and everything that concerns our safety and well-being. If you had to think before you jumped out of the way of a speeding car, chances are you would not be here to read these words!
- Unlocking “Brain Lock” – Part 2
September 18, 2012
Jim took the signal of anxiousness as a sign that he needed to, A. Stop what he was doing. B. Become mindful of his intention to perform with excellence, and C. Engage himself in a pleasurable activity as a way of unlocking his brain.
- Unlocking “Brain Lock” – Part 1
September 3, 2012
Recent scientific research tells us that compulsive behavior occurs when three different areas of the brain “lock up” and thus fail to act in a solution oriented, life affirming manner. When our brain “locks” we wind up believing that is no way to act differently.
- The language of your body – Part 2
August 17, 2012
Jim begins to understand experientially that to a large extent his emotional responses to circumstances and relationships, are initiated by his body. When he changes the way he uses his body, he changes the “conversations” his body engages in, which leads to a different understanding of his circumstances.
- The language of your body – Part 1
August 3, 2012
The language your body uses to communicate, is at least as sophisticated, systematic, and complete as the verbal language you speak. The “wiring” for your somatic language begins its development while you are inside your mother’s belly.
- Integrative Hypnosis
July 16, 2012
This article is an interview with Melissa Tiers, on Integrative Hypnosis. Melissa exhibits a deep faith in the ability of her clients to change and prosper.
- A Description of the Seishindo MindBody Coaching – Part 4
July 3, 2012
“Symptoms” or “problems” alert you to the fact that what you are currently doing is not working all that well. Every symptom or seeming problem is thus a communication of a positive need for change.
- A Description of the Seishindo MindBody Coaching – Part 3
June 15, 2012
As we begin today, I would like to borrow a concept from Self-relations Therapy, and invite you to use each and every event and experience you encounter, to awaken to the goodness and gifts of the self, the world, and the connections between the two.
- A Description of the Seishindo MindBody Coaching – Part 2
June 1, 2012
What I want to make clear, is that anyone who is wanting to help another person change can use the principles I describe. A parent, a spouse, a manager, a friend. Indeed, most of the “change conversations” we engage in do not take place in a professional coaching setting.
- A Description of the Seishindo MindBody Coaching – Part 1
May 16, 2012
Much of what I do when coaching has developed with a certain amount of serendipity. I started out with concepts from NLP and Ericksonian Hypnosis, and then I added principles from Aikido, Noguchi Sei Tai, Gregory Bateson, and Self-relations Therapy.
- You are an Orchestra
May 2, 2012
Our brainwaves, heartbeat, enteric nervous system, craniosacral system, breath, blink rate, and swallow rate, are all metronomes that beat at different speeds and rhythms, creating a musical pattern similar to the interaction of various percussion instruments in an orchestra.
- Suffering and happiness
April 16, 2012
A paradox is a thought, belief, or statement that appears to be contradictory or absurd but in reality expresses a truth. We often get caught up in the paradoxical differences between “What we think is best and what we actually do.”
- Golden Rules of Writing- Part 4
April 3, 2012
1. Introduction This is the last of four articles on my “Golden Rules of Writing”. Thanks so much to those of you who have written to tell me about your experience with writing. Hearing from the members of the community always makes me happy! I will be coming to NYC in a month’s time to teach a coaching ...
- Golden Rules of Writing- Part 3
March 16, 2012
1. Introduction I have been receiving some wonderful feedback from a number of you in regard to this series on writing. Knowing that someone is there actively reading, brings me great joy. I am waiting to hear from more of you, so don’t be bashful! Here is some of what has been sent to me. (Shared with ...
- Golden Rules of Writing– Part 2
March 1, 2012
1. Introduction Today continues on from where I left off in my last newsletter. You will benefit both personally and professionally by improving your writing skills. The more clear, succinct, and persuasive you are when communicating, the more you empower yourself to succeed and build better relationships. High quality written communication, leads to high quality verbal communication. Since ...
- Golden Rules of Writing- Part 1
February 15, 2012
1. Introduction Over the years when teaching workshops, people have often commented that they liked the stories I tell, and that my stories offered them important learning. About eight years ago, my friend and colleague Molly Gordon suggested it would be a great idea if I wrote up my stories in a newsletter. And thus the ...
- The Path of your Life
February 1, 2012
1. Introduction Welcome to our new subscribers. I hope you will find value in what I write. My new book got its first in-depth review today. Wonderful how this gentleman really “got” the message I was wanting to get across! Click on this link if you would like to read the review. http://markmccluretoday.com/book-review-pure-heart-simple-mind-by-charlie-badenhop I would be very pleased if you ...
- Embracing life’s many problems
January 17, 2012
1. Introduction It’s been three weeks since my book was released, and I am so pleased by the positive feedback that has been streaming in! If I haven’t replied to your email yet, I will, as soon as I catch up. For those of you who have yet to have a look, you can check out the ...
- Slowing down, and becoming more present
January 3, 2012
1. Introduction My best wishes to everyone for the coming year. I am feeling really happy to have finally gotten my first book out into the world, and I want to thank those of you who have already gotten a copy and sent me kind words of encouragement. I think all of the Amazon stores worldwide are now ...
- Courage in the face of perceived failure
December 15, 2011
The fear of failure is an emotion that knocks on everyone’s door at one time or another… This story of my work with a client might help you to learn something about yourself.
- Everyday mind and time
December 1, 2011
“How unstable was your thinking mind?” Sensei asked, after we had just spent an hour doing a specific breathing exercise. “I’m guessing that in the last hour most of you were very busy thinking, even though you’re meant to sit quietly when doing this exercise.”
- Biting the hand that feeds you
November 15, 2011
This article will help you to deal with the aggression of others, in a generative manner.
November 5, 2011
What I’ve learned over time, is that high quality solutions are invariably simple. Conversely, when people feel incapable of finding a path forward, they invariably formulate their challenge in a way that’s overly complex. It’s the complication they’ve built up in their mind, that obscures their solution.
- Stones of Wisdom
October 31, 2011
The more you talk about what you don’t want; The more you think about what upsets you- The more you feed these circumstances and relationships, with the energy of your thoughts. Whatever you imagine over the course of time, you’ll wind up manifesting.
- Orienting to Success
October 31, 2011
“In the process of orienting towards being successful, I realize that the more I want something the more I tend to worry. From this point onwards I’m going to focus on transforming my dreams, into positively oriented actions.”
- The experience of “being centered”
September 15, 2011
Today’s newsletter is a Seishindo exercise to help you feel centered and calm.
- Living Calmness
September 1, 2011
In Seishindo we believe… Each person is very much like a snowflake. Unique, Never to be duplicated, And with a life that’s over all too quickly. A key task in life is learning how to appreciate our uniqueness rather than comparing our self to others, or lamenting about what we are not.
- Work hard, don’t worry
August 1, 2011
This is story about “Kinkenrikko”. The Japanese concept of “hard work and frugality”. You can learn a lot about Japanese spirit by reading this story.
- Problems First – Toyota
July 15, 2011
Today’s story is an updated version of a story I often share with my Executive Coaching clients. I think the wisdom of the Toyota approach of “Problems first” has a lot to offer you in the day to day living of your life.
- Faking It
July 2, 2011
What I have learned is- The thanks and respect we show others, If it’s to have any real meaning, If it’s to be more than an empty social ritual, Must be initiated from a heartfelt sense of appreciation and humility.
- Vulnerability can be a strength
June 15, 2011
Living in Japan for so long, I’ve learned a great deal about life from a unique perspective. One of my greatest teachers was my wife’s grandmother, who passed away several years ago. I hope you will enjoy this story!
- Never underestimate the power of your original self
June 2, 2011
We increase our suffering by failing to appreciate the opportunities and learning our current challenges offers us. No one lives a life without challenges, and indeed our challenges make us who we are.
- Fundamentals of Happiness
May 14, 2011
In Japanese culture we are taught to celebrate success in a subdued fashion, keeping in mind that tomorrow brings a new set of challenges. We are taught that success is fleeting and doesn’t last all that long.
- Mushin – A concept of innocent simplicity
May 1, 2011
A Japanese architect told me the following- The simpler you make something, the more obvious the obstructions in your thinking appear. In the early stages of each new design, I look forward to discovering the weaknesses in my thinking.
- The more you resist, the more you restrict… what is possible
April 18, 2011
The opposite of something you believe to be true, can also be true, And from time to time I find it important to remember this. Niels Bohr said, “The opposite of a fact is a falsehood, but the opposite of one profound truth may very well be another profound truth.”
- The Ebb and Flow of Life
April 15, 2011
“A single drop of water, has no power. A single drop of water moving with the flow of the ocean forms a wave. The power of the wave comes from joining with. The same is true of me and you.”
- The Mind of Aikido and Water
April 4, 2011
With a mind of endless effortless rest, renewal, and movement, As calm when doing as when simply being. We can realize the end of every journey as a new beginning, Every destination as temporary, every goal as cyclical
- A crisis of faith
March 16, 2011
What would your life be like if you believed you were a fine person, an intelligent person, an overall good learner? In other words, what would your life be like if you didn’t think something was wrong with you?
- A crisis of faith
March 15, 2011
What are your afraid of? The attack of your counterpart who is simply performing his half of a training task? The judgment of people watching who might say you’re clumsy and unskilled? Or perhaps what you’re fearing most is the attack of your own negative self judgments.
- Pain and Suffering
February 28, 2011
Sensei said, “Your suffering is created by your beliefs, and not by the outside world. Trying to run away from suffering is like trying to run away from yourself.”
- Koans, paradox, and prayer
February 12, 2011
A “koan” is a paradoxical anecdote or riddle that has no apparent rational solution or meaning. Zen students are given koans to ponder. They’re meant to absorb themselves in the seeming paradox of a koan via meditation and everyday life, until such time that an “alternative truth” emerges
- Lessons learned from hard times
January 28, 2011
I have many fond memories of sitting in my wife’s grandmother’s house, sipping tea, and giving “obaachan” the space to say whatever was on her mind. Today she talked about lessons learned from hard times.
December 16, 2010
1. Introduction The holidays will soon be upon us. I hope you take this time to slow down, and reflect on your many blessings. Potable water, ample food, and a roof over your head… if you have these things, please don’t take them for granted. We have about 8,000 people subscribed to our newsletter, and still only ...
- Old Japanese houses
December 1, 2010
1. Introduction Hi, If you haven’t yet made your way over to the Seishindo Blog, please do so. Once there you’ll come across a new rich source of information. And you’re also invited to share your comments on what you read. Please come and help us build an ever more vibrant Seishindo community. In Community, Charlie2. Old Japanese ...
- Pain, and the mind of an undisciplined child
November 17, 2010
1. Introduction Little by little, more and more of you are migrating over to a second source of sustenance and support- The Seishindo Blog. Come on over and read short posts that are separate and distinct from the newsletter. And beyond that, you’re welcomed to comment on what you read and share your thoughts with the ...
- Life is a self-fulfilling prophecy
November 1, 2010
1. Introduction I’m wanting to let you know again, that our new website is up and running, and waiting for YOU! I encourage you to have a look at my new blog. In my blog posts I tend to talk about Seishindo related theory that interests me, and the blog posts are totally different content from the newsletter. Please ...
- Learning how to learn
October 15, 2010
1. Introduction Our new site is up and running, and growing and evolving every day! My hope is that you’ll come and have a look, AND sign-up for our new Blog while you’re on the site. The Blog will present content that is separate from anything I write for this newsletter. Somatic theory, an occasional rant or ...
- Endless Determination
October 1, 2010
1. Introduction Within the next day or two we’ll be launching a completely new website. It’s taken a lot of hard work and I hope you’ll be pleased with the results. Once we do launch I’ll be sending you an announcement letting you know. The new site has a Blog function which will allow you to ...
- Stalking the truth
September 15, 2010
1. Introduction Well, the heat has finally broken! Hooray! Off and on for the last several days we’ve had some strong rain, and initially it was like running cold water on a hot frying pan. In a few months time I’ll likely be complaining about the cold! :- ) In community, Charlie2. Stalking the truth After five years, another gaijin finally ...
- The power of culture
September 2, 2010
1. Introduction We are having a record heat wave here in Tokyo. Supposed to be the hottest August ever! “Slow down, you’re going to fast……” This week’s story is linked to the story in my last newsletter. In community, Charlie2. The power of culture I ran some errands after my meeting with my two lady friends, and by the time I ...
- Love and Marriage, Revisited
August 15, 2010
1. Introduction My daughter’s in Australia for the next two weeks, so I guess this time around I’ll wish all my friends in the southern hemisphere, a mild and refreshing winter! Except for during the summer, I’m not usually a big fan of winter. But I wouldn’t mind a tiny bit of winter right now! In community, Charlie2. Love ...
- Everyday mind and relativity
August 2, 2010
1. Introduction “Hot down, summer in the city…” and the heat is upon us! I hope you’re finding many different ways to stay cool. As much as today’s story is for all of you in the Seishindo community, I would like to especially offer it to my new friend Bjorn. Warmly, Charlie2. Everyday mind and relativity In Aikido we strive to ...
July 15, 2010
1. Introduction “Summer, and the living is easy.” I’ve always wondered who coined that phrase! Tokyo hasn’t really warmed up yet, but some of my friends in other locations are telling me about temperatures that are 100?/38? and above. In such conditions, “living easy” is an art form I am still a novice at. Whether or not it ...
- The benefits of working
June 30, 2010
1. Introduction Hi to all, It’s getting rather hot here in Tokyo, which offers many lessons in learning how to slow down. As we like to say in Seishindo, “The slower you go, the sooner you’ll reach your destination.” Please take this time to slow down and enjoy life. Warmly, Charlie2. The benefits of working Older Japanese people have a deep ...
- Punishment, and the concept of “right or wrong”
June 16, 2010
1. Introduction I hope that many of you are enjoying the World Cup. I got interested in “football” for the first time during the last World Cup, and was very impressed with the intelligence, creativity, toughness, and stamina necessary to perform at a high level. May the best team win! Regards, Charliep.s. Will someone please write and tell me ...
- Take the initiative by doing nothing
June 1, 2010
1. Introduction We had a rash of new subscribers over the last couple of weeks, and I want to take the time to welcome all of you to the Seishindo community. To everyone in the community, if you feel nourished by my stories, please pass the newsletter onto others who might benefit from and enjoy what is ...
- “We-dentity” in the dojo
May 17, 2010
1. Introduction I went out for the first time in a while this weekend. Turns out that I went to two parties in the same day! I met some friends that I have known for more than 20 years here in Japan, and made a few new friends as well. AND, I got to play blues harp with a ...
- What’s the basis for your self confidence?
May 4, 2010
1. Introduction I’ve been on the road for five weeks, and thus this newsletter comes to you a few days late. All my travel has once again filled me with the sense that I’m blessed and my life and relationships are quite fulfilling. Now, do I feel that way all the time? No. But certainly more and more. And the ...
- What have you come here to learn?
April 15, 2010
1. Introduction Hi to all, I’m just now winding down a three week trip I’ve been on, and looking forward to getting back to my friends in Tokyo. I hope everyone is taking some time to enjoy the onset of spring! In community, Charlie2. What have you come here to learn? When new students showed up in Aikido class, one of ...
- Nurturing a Problem
March 31, 2010
1. Introduction As I continue to prepare for a forthcoming book, I’m going back through my archives and rewriting a number of my more popular pieces. Today’s story first appeared in a Seishindo newsletter more than six years ago. If you’ve been with me long enough to be reading this story a second time, please write and ...
- Move less, and do less, and you’ll have all the time you need
March 16, 2010
1. Introduction Come visit with us over on Facebook. We’ve got a group of people discussing a range of interesting topics. http://www.facebook.com/seishindo Regards, Charlie2.Move less, and do less, and you’ll have all the time you need In Aikido we have a special practice called “randori”, where you get simultaneously attacked by several students. Now to be clear, none of your attackers ...
- What disturbance?
March 1, 2010
1. Introduction Hi to all, With major earthquakes in Haiti and now Chile, I must say I’m a bit antsy sitting here in Tokyo. Supposedly a big quake is already long overdo here! Please give to the people of Haiti and Chile, in whatever way you can. In times of great hardship, any and all help is always ...
February 16, 2010
1. Opening Lines Hi to all, A handful of members in the Seishindo Community have been carrying on some “small talk” on Facebook. Nothing big going on. Just some folks talking about creativity, dieting, and Yogalates. “Ya’ll come!” http://www.facebook.com/Seishindo Charlie 2. Atonement I was out roller blading and exploring side streets when I came across an older man and his granddaughter selling origami ...
- The three hearts of a Japanese man
February 1, 2010
1. Introduction I want to once again thank everyone for their support and words of wisdom, during my mom’s passing. Hearing from you all really helped to keep me in good spirits! With this issue I would like to get back to writing about my life in Japan. Lately there’s been a small flurry of activity on the ...
- Anxiety and Fear
January 22, 2010
1. Introduction Well, the new year is here! Anything different? My wish for you is that you take the time to nurture yourself and those you love and care for. I recently posted an announcement about my monthly workshop in Tokyo. I thought somehow it would be “obvious” that the workshop was in Tokyo, but “obviously” it wasn’t obvious, ...
- The Circle of Life
January 18, 2010
1. Introduction I have finally returned home to Tokyo after about six weeks in the States, attending to my mom passing away, and my father moving into a senior’s facility. I look forward to sharing some of what I learned. Today’s story is a start. If you haven’t already, please make a donation to assist the people of Haiti! Regards, Charlie 2. ...
- Life is a full time activity
January 3, 2010
Life is a full time activity Hi to all, Thanks so much to everyone who wrote to me in regard to my mom passing away. I received many, many emails filled with great wisdom and love. Please accept my apologies for not being able to reply to all of you. I feel truly blessed to be in ...
- The passing of my mom
December 15, 2009
The passing of my mom Dear Seishindo Community, My mom passed away peacefully on Wednesday night December 9th. I was with her at the end, and it was an experience filled with great love and deep sharing. I am doing fine, and we had a lovely service for my mom this last Saturday. I have a number of new stories ...
- New Year Greeting
December 10, 2009
As always, our New Year newsletter is much shorter and simpler than all our other issues. This gives me the chance to lay back and recharge my batteries some. I’ll get back to storytelling next time around. This year was particularly full. With my dear Russian friend, colleague, and webmaster Inessa passing away I wound up ...
- On being a man
December 1, 2009
1. Introduction We are at the stage of fully entering into winter. Less sunlight, and warmth. Wishing you a bright smile, and friends and loved ones to warm your heart. Charlie 2. On being a man Drawing people into conversations that go beyond the surface is one of my favorite pastimes, regardless of where I am. I usually begin such ...
- Pampering myself
November 16, 2009
1. Introduction Hi to all, As the year begins to draw to a close, I hope all of you will remember to treat yourselves with kindness over the holidays. It’s been a great year so far for the Seishindo team, and we’re planning on a few surprises for next year. If you enjoy my newsletter and find it ...
- Kanai (my wife)
October 30, 2009
1. Introduction Hi to all, With the help of my good friend Tony Padgett, I have recently uploaded to various sites, a thirty minute video on Anger Management that Tony and I created a few years ago. If you go to You Tube, http://www.youtube.com Type in Seishindo Anger Management in the search box, and you should find three videos, each about ...
- Love and Marriage
October 15, 2009
1. Introduction Hi to all, If you would like to connect with me in a format of short “tweets”, then please join me on Twitter: http://twitter.com/Seishindo/ If you would like to connect with me, plus others in the Seishindo community, then please join us on Facebook. So far we have a dozen members, and we would love to generate conversations ...
- One thing leads to the next
September 30, 2009
1. Introduction Last issue I wrote about shopping with my new found friend Okada-san. If you are a new subscriber you might like to read the last issue, before or after reading this issue, which again talks about my relationship with this lady. 2. One thing leads to the next Well, it was about two months since I ...
- Shopping with Oba-chan (a grandmother)
September 15, 2009
1. Shopping with Oba-chan (a grandmother) Recently, as I was about to enter my local supermarket I noticed a woman perhaps in her seventies, having trouble getting her left shoe back on her foot. The problem was that she couldn’t find a good place to steady herself so she could bend over and adjust the shoe. Without a ...
- Thoughts to Ponder
August 31, 2009
1. Introduction I hope this newsletter finds you all doing well. I particularly want to welcome new subscribers to the Seishindo community and let you all know what has been occurring for me lately. Recently my 90 year old mother was diagnosed with late stage brain cancer and I have had to spend a good deal of time ...
- Rainy season
July 31, 2009
In April of this year I wrote a short newsletter entitled “Sometimes….. when it rains it pours”. I talked about the death of my teacher and loved ones who had cancer. Now, one day before my mother’s 90th birthday, which was July 28, 2009, she was all of a sudden diagnosed with late stage brain cancer. I am ...
- Sharing the wealth
July 16, 2009
Although Tokyo is a huge metropolis, there are many small streets and quiet areas where one can feel at ease. I live about a half hour from the center of town and my neighborhood has the feel of a small village. I live in a large ground floor corner apartment in a three story building and ...
- Suffering, and Happiness
June 30, 2009
A paradox is a kind of puzzle or riddle. A paradox is a thought, belief, or statement that appears to be contradictory or absurd but in reality expresses a possible truth. From time to time we all get caught in “The paradoxical difference between what we think and what we feel”. Another way to say this is, ...
- When you’re not here… Where are you?
June 16, 2009
1. Announcements Seishindo Embodied Presence Workshop “Calm and Confident in times of stress” with Charlie Badenhop Washington DC Metro Area, 24-26 June 2009 This stress-management workshop is meant for coaches, consultants, and leaders. It will be a good fit for you if you’d like to: • Better manage your health, awareness, and well-being. • Help teach your clients to do the same. • ...
- Forgiving is not condoning- Part 2
June 1, 2009
1. Introduction Thanks so much for all the feedback in regard to my last newsletter on forgiveness. Great food for thought. One reader in particular wrote back saying (edited here) “Well, when we forgive our parents, it’s only half the total job. No doubt, just as we were hurt by our parents’ behavior, there have been many times, ...
- Forgiving is not condoning
May 19, 2009
1. Announcement Seishindo Embodied Presence Workshop “Calm and Confident in times of stress” with Charlie Badenhop Washington DC Metro Area, 24-26 June 2009 This stress-management workshop is meant for coaches, consultants, and leaders. It will be a good fit for you if you’d like to: • Better manage your health, awareness, and well-being. • Help teach your clients to do the same. • ...
- Mother’s Day
April 30, 2009
1. Mother’s Day Mother’s Day is coming up soon in the U.S. (May 9). My mom is turning 90 in a couple of months, and she also recently has a cancerous tumor removed. Beyond that, her and my dad, who will also be 90 this year, are moving to a senior citizens home. I have been ...
- Birds of a different feather
April 16, 2009
1. Introduction In my last newsletter I mentioned that my long time friend and teacher (Eva Graf) had recently passed away. I want to thank all of you for the many kind emails I received expressing your condolences. I have thought long and hard about what to write for this newsletter. As I was considering what would ...
- Sometimes… When it rains it pours
April 1, 2009
Hi to all subscribers new and old, There will not be a usual newsletter this week due to way too much on my plate, all at one time. In the last ten days, My long time teacher and dear friend, Eva Graf passed away, My mom was diagnosed with breast cancer, And one of my best friends was diagnosed with ...
- The flow of “mind” in water and Aikido
March 16, 2009
1. Introduction Hi to all, We go back into the Seishindo vaults today, to revive a piece written several years ago. Aikido has been a very rich source of learning for me. By writing about my Aikido experiences I offer you a taste of the sustenance I have received over the years. Regards, Charlie 2. The flow of “mind” in water ...
- A window on the world
March 2, 2009
1. Introduction It was one year ago today, that Inessa, my dear friend and webmaster passed away. The love and enthusiasm she exuded, is still very much alive in my heart. Spring is showing up in fits and starts. Warm one day, lightly snowing the next. I’m always excited when seeing bulbs and flowers starting to sprout. ...
- The ebb and flow of life
February 16, 2009
1. Introduction Hi to all, I offer my condolences to the Australian members of the Seishindo community. In communicating with some of you and reading various articles, I’m struck by the terror caused by raging wildfires suddenly and mysteriously changing direction, and consuming life, property, and nature. May you experience a deep peace in the days to come. Regards, Charlie 2. ...
- Everything just as it should be
February 2, 2009
1. Workshop Announcement Seishindo Embodied Presence Workshop “Calm and Confident in times of stress” with Charlie Badenhop and Marleen Adriaensen Belgium, 20-21 March 2009 Stress is everywhere these days. You can feel it, hear it, and see it. In such uncertain times, what will your choice of action be? Wait around until “the economy” gets better? Or will you consider ...
- Cultivating beauty, cultivating love
January 16, 2009
1. Introduction Hi, Today’s story was originally a fragment of another story I wrote a number of years ago. When going back into the Seishindo archives, all of a sudden I saw this scene unfolding in front of me. I hope you enjoy.Charlie 2. Cultivating beauty, cultivating love Living in Japan, I’m amazed by the bonsai displays of local people ...
- God and Santa Claus
December 15, 2008
1. Introduction I realize the concept of “God” is a touchy subject for many people. That’s one of the reasons I’m presenting a new version of this newsletter again today. If necessary, I ask you to disconnect your concept of “God” or “No-god” from the tenets of any one particular religion. Don’t worry, I won’t be trying ...
- The more you resist, the more you restrict… what is possible
December 1, 2008
1. Introduction There are two sides to every coin. The opposite of most everything I write is also true, And from time to time I find it important to make this clear. For instance, in today’s article I write, “The more you resist, the more you restrict what is possible.” I think there’s some important wisdom in this statement. And ...
- Your “body language” determines your thoughts and emotions
November 15, 2008
1. Introduction Today’s newsletter has more content than usual, so sit back and get ready to read! From time to time I find it important to explain the principles that we work with in Seishindo so you can get a better idea of how to improve the quality of your life. Usually when clients begin a coaching program ...
- “Reality” is a frame of mind
October 30, 2008
1. Introduction I’m just back from a month long work trip. I very much enjoyed meeting some of the Seishindo community in Antwerp, Belgium and Austin, Texas. It’s wonderful to meet people face to face for the first time, and to know our community is truly thriving! Today I offer another story from my Greek saga. Enjoy! Warmly, Charlie ...
- The math just doesn’t add up
October 16, 2008
1. Introduction As I’ve said before… When I was 23 years old I had the good and bad fortune of getting arrested in Greece during a military dictatorship. Here’s another story about this time in my life. I fully realize the tone of my prison stories are rather different than what I usually write about. These stories might ...
- Embodied Leadership
October 1, 2008
1. Introduction From time to time I segue from my usual stories to write about other topics of interest. Today’s article gives you a look at leadership from the “embodied” viewpoint of Seishindo. I hope what I write is of interest to everyone, as we all take on the role of being a leader from time ...
- Such a good looking suit!
September 11, 2008
1. Introduction When it’s all said and done, I’m a New York City boy. Born in Brooklyn, raised in Staten Island, and starting in my late 20’s a good deal of time spent in Manhattan. It was in Manhattan that I really first met and made friends with Jewish people. To this day I feel there’s something quite ...
- Have you been lucky in life?
September 1, 2008
1. Introduction Recently I wrote about a remarkable set of circumstances I got caught up in when I was 23 years old. I wrote about being both unlucky and lucky enough to have been incarcerated for five months in a Greek prison during a military dictatorship. Today’s story is reworked from an article I wrote five ...
- Why do you talk so fast?
August 16, 2008
1. Introduction Back six or so years ago when I first started writing my newsletter it used to be a bit longer. Over time we simplified our format to make the newsletter more palatable for busy people. For today’s issue I’ve gone back into the vaults and rewritten one of my favorite stories, while keeping the ...
- The flight to freedom
July 30, 2008
1. Opening statement Today’s story is one of the first I wrote back around six years ago. It is one of my favorites and I have rewritten it here in preparation for my forthcoming book. If you’ve been with me long enough to be reading this story a second time, I would love to hear from you. ...
- On becoming a man
July 15, 2008
1. Background Statement About thirty seven years ago I was both unlucky and lucky enough, to be incarcerated for five months in a Greek prison during a military dictatorship. Myself and many other foreigners were swept up by the military government in an attempt to rid the country of “undesireables”. I say “unlucky” because even though I ...
- Perfection, and the impermanence of life
July 1, 2008
During my many years in Japan I’ve taken the opportunity to dabble in various Japanese arts. I always come away feeling inspired by the sensitivity and attention to detail that is expressed. One of my explorations led me to take some lessons in “Ikebana”, the Japanese art of flower arranging. During my brief training my teacher ...
- A full life is not necessarily a long life
June 13, 2008
1. Update I’m hoping to see a number of you at my upcoming workshop in DC. This workshop will primarily be for coaches and consultants who want to take some of the tools of Seishindo back into their work life. With this in mind, I am focusing on nice bite sized chunks that will serve you well. Be ...
- From The Perspective of a Child
May 29, 2008
An open back truck carrying a children’s ride and blaring out music, used to come round my neighborhood in Brooklyn during the summer. When I was eight years old this truck was THE thing I yearned for. You heard the music in the distance… Raced to your mom demanding money… Ran madly to the truck hoping to be ...
- Sixty….. And Counting….
May 17, 2008
1. Update Very much missing not having Inessa around! Slowly but surely we are getting back up to speed. We ought to be back to normal within the next month. Thanks again for the many kind words we received. Charlie 2. Sixty….. And Counting…. I’m sitting here on my sixtieth birthday. A beautiful Saturday morning…. May 10, 2008 Listening to some Sarah McLachlin ...
- Footsteps in the Sand
May 1, 2008
Have you ever walked along a beach or a riverbank, and seen footprints of other animals that have passed by before you? You might have had a similar experience in an urban environment seeing the “footprints” of someone’s littering, or advertisements attached to a string of utility poles. No matter how inconsequential you might feel your life ...
- Courage in the face of failure
April 16, 2008
1. Update Dear Seishindo Community, As most of you will already know, my dear friend and webmaster, Inessa Rebeyko passed away a few weeks ago. She is very much missed by all of us! We’ve been spending some time feeling into and acknowledging our loss, while also working at finding a new webmaster and tidying up a LOT ...
- The passing of a dear friend
March 7, 2008
Hi to all, To our new subscribers, welcome! In the coming weeks we will be sending you our regular newsletters, filled with the pure heart, simple mind stories that have attracted more than 9,000 subscribers over the last five years. To our long term subscribers….. My dear friend and Seishindo webmaster, Inessa Rebeyko, passed away in the early morning ...
- Changing the way you feel and think
February 17, 2008
Most of the time I write stories which I hope will touch your heart in some way, as well as offer some learning. This issue I would like to write and explain how I and my colleagues work with clients using the Seishindo process. I’m changing my writing style today for several reasons. First I’m excited by ...
- Appreciating life’s ups and downs
January 17, 2008
1. Update Dear Seishindo Community, First, I want to welcome the newcomers to our newsletter. You are meeting us at a challenging time and I want to let you know what’s going on. Inessa, the Seishindo webmaster and marketing director is currently being treated for cervical cancer. Because of this our newsletters will not always be arriving every ...
- Preparing for success – Till the soil before you plant the seeds
November 17, 2007
Preparing for success – Till the soil before you plant the seeds I have a friend who wanted to grow vegetables in his garden for the first time this year. He planted his seeds having no idea to first check for soil quality. Turned out that the soil had poor drainage and he was very disappointed ...
- Appreciative Relationships Help Resolve Conflict
November 1, 2007
Dear Pure Heart, Simple Mind Readers, Let me thank you heartily for writing and letting me know how our newsletter helps you move closer to the life you want for yourself. Your appreciation means a lot and inspires me to further commit to helping clients recognize and embody their true heart’s desires. Wherever you live, you can ...
- Planting and nurturing the seeds of success
October 16, 2007
Planting and nurturing the seeds of success It’s my belief that we often don’t achieve the goals we set, because we don’t understand how to properly prepare ourselves for success. So many people want to change some aspect of their life, try doing something, get lousy results, and wind up thinking something’s wrong with them. I’m ...
- Self Hypnosis and The Human Spirit
August 1, 2007
Over time my stories about my ex-wife’s grandmother have proven to really touch people’s hearts. I hope what I write today will help you to have greater faith in your own ability to persevere in difficult situations. Grandma’s ability to enter into a self-hypnotic trance state likely saved her life during WWII. Her ability to enter ...
- Deal with stress before stress deals with you
June 16, 2007
1. Deal with stress before stress deals with you A number of years ago a client came to me in a really bad stressed out condition. He was having multiple problems in his business and married life. He came for one session, and promised to call soon to make another appointment, which he never did. About ...
- Never underestimate the value of suffering
March 15, 2007
Never underestimate the value of suffering The Trappist monk Thomas Merton once said, “I became a monk not so as to suffer more, but to suffer more effectively.” This statement offers you a good deal to ponder if you’re striving for greater emotional fulfillment in your life. When people contact me for help they’re usually wanting to do ...
- Identifying with the Master
February 15, 2007
Here’s a story for those of you craving a clear understanding of yourself and what you truly want to accomplish in life. Many years ago… (This is always the way such stories begin.) A new and highly enthused student starting studying with a Master. There were classes six days a week, early morning and evening, and the new ...
- Learning from the past, rather than living in it
January 15, 2007
In the close to four years I’ve been writing the Seishindo newsletter, I feel I’ve learned how to be a better writer. In the course of preparing my articles for publication I’m going back and rewriting a number of my earlier newsletters. What follows is a major rewrite of the very first newsletter Inessa and ...