Thoughts to Ponder – 8

1. Introduction

This is the last newsletter in this series. Thanks to the many people who wrote to me appreciating what has been shared.

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In community,


It is cherry blossom season here in Tokyo!

2. Thoughts to Ponder- 8

“What is it that makes you, you?
Do you appreciate who you are while still realizing the need to change and the possibility of living a more fulfilling life? Or do you tend to find fault with yourself and bemoan who you are not? The more you criticize and find fault with yourself, the less likely you are to live the life you truly desire.

What will you need to do differently if you are to live the life you truly desire?”

“The key to success is to focus our conscious mind on things we desire not things we fear.”
Brian Tracy

This quote fits very much into the philosophy of Seishindo. In general, you will live a much more fulfilling life if you have goals that you move towards, rather than trying to avoid potential problems or pitfalls. When you dwell on your potential problems, or your fears, you point your thinking mind towards the negative. When you instead focus on potential solutions and improvements in your life you point your thinking mind towards the positive.

My experience in coaching people has shown me that when people do manage to avoid a problem they rarely feel happy with the results they achieve. Instead they usually quickly turn towards thinking about the next “problem” they feel like they need to avoid.

“Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get.”
Dale Carnegie

I feel that many of us give way too much importance to being successful, while ignoring or discounting the pursuit of happiness. I particularly see this in the careers and jobs people choose. When I was growing up many of the adults I knew talked to me about the importance of being successful, and yet I don’t remember anyone ever talking to me about the importance of being happy.

“The number of times I succeed is in direct proportion to the number of times I can fail and keep on trying.”
Tom Hopkins

“Obstacles are necessary for success because victory comes only after many struggles and countless defeats.”
Og Mandino

I never cease to be intrigued by how some people increase their desire to be successful after suffering a defeat, while others become despondent and give up. We need to learn from our past mistakes and make the necessary course corrections for our next attempt, rather than dwelling in the past and feeling like our defeat means we aren’t truly capable. I think we will be well served by asking ourselves, “What could I have done differently, that would have likely led me to achieve the results I desired?”

And the answer you come up with needs to point towards the actions you did and didn’t take, and the thinking you did and didn’t do.

“A real decision is measured by the fact that you’ve taken a new action. If there’s no action, you haven’t truly decided.”
Tony Robbins

“A mediocre person tells. A good person explains. A superior person demonstrates. A great person inspires others to see for themselves.”
Harvey Mackay

As a student, I most appreciated and benefitted from the teachers that inspired me to think for myself and be solution oriented, rather than the teachers who stood up in the front of the room and taught me their method for achieving a solution.

“You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help other people get what they want.”
Zig Ziglar

The way I often talk about this is to ask people- “When you think about who YOU are, do you limit your thinking to ONLY yourself, or do you see your friends, loved ones, and colleagues as part of your definition of self?”
The stronger our relationships with others, the more resources we have available, to help us live the life we truly desire.

“You have everything you need to build something far bigger than yourself.”
Seth Godin